It's all about the approach....

I stand before you, the # 1 defender of Black women. I spend a large amount of time trying to convince guys that we (black women) don't have bad attitudes. I know some of us are on one, but most of us are just looking for some reciprocity. We feel like we give and give and all people do is take. After a while some rules have to be implemented to prevent total emotional depletion. And this is the time when men usually try to approach us. I am not making excuses for women, but I want to inform men as to why we respond to them the way that we do. It is a combination of our past experiences and current expectations. Again I'm not defending today, I am here to make things easier for both sides. Because isn't the point to make things less complicated and more simplistic. So what I want to say to men today is, its all in the approach.

When approaching a lady (Yes I went old school), the sentence should never include a "yo", "wassup" or a compliment about a body part. Just say "hello" or "how are you" and take it from there. And I know that some of us give attitude(Read the first part) but you smile at Evilene and you walk away. As you leave that lady's vicinity, just think she is not who God intended. Now ladies we must learn to not be so angry when a man (one who uses the proper approach) strikes up a conversation. He hasn't robbed you, he didn't cheat on you, and he didn't drag you to the club/bar that you are sitting in. So just say "hello" and smile. You may not be interested in that particular man but who says you can't have a nice conversation with someone new. And ladies take this into consideration: No one wants someone that no one else wants. So if you spend the night shooing men away with your attitude, eventually NO ONE will approach you. And that is not a good look.

I think next time I will talk about dating, something that Black mommas don't teach their daughters.