I just had an epiphany ......

I had conversation with a guy friend of mine and he made me answer a queston that I never was asked before. And I knew the answer but after reading what I typed, I had an epiiphany. Let me share with you the conversation.

HE says: Why do you feel that you were scared to standup for yourself in relationships and not in other aspects of your life?
I say: It was about me wanting to be loved by somebody and the fear of that love going away
HE says: Oh
I say: So I maintained and hope it wouldn't leave, but I learned that I don't control that. People will leave anyway no matter how good of a person you are

Wow!!!! I knew subconciously that I had learned a lesson from my previous relationships but to hear myslef sum it up in words was amazing. So what have you learned from your previous relationships?